The Heart Unboxed

How to Love the Unloveable

Yes! I'm ready to feel amazing now!

Do you struggle to celebrate others' successes wishing it was you and not them?

Does looking in the mirror send you into a spiral of self-criticism?

Do you feel like you're just not good enough?

Do you feel like you can't spend time, money, or other resources on the things that matter most to you?

Or maybe you've been holding onto something from the past – a moment of humiliation, anger, guilt or shame that makes your stomach or chest tighten?

If you said yes to any of the above, let me introduce The Heart Unboxed: How to Love the Unloveable Ecourse, in which you will learn proven tactics to experience more love, joy, peace, freedom, and total wellness!


Read what happened for Jennie:

“Where have you been my whole life? I just finished the introductory lesson and the worthiness lesson [of The Heart Unboxed] and OMG--these are just the things I needed to hear today (this week...this year!). I appreciate very much your suggestions for how to work through my worthiness issues in these areas!”

Jennie Santopietro

Imagine if you woke up every morning enjoying your life.

Imagine what it would feel like to have your heart bursting with love and gratitude for everything you experience and every person you encounter on a daily basis. Imagine what it would be like to never feel doubt about another negative comment.

How would this change your life?

In The Heart Unboxed: How to Love the Unloveable you will experience the exact process I used to transform my heart and mind to bring about more love, joy, peace, and wellness to life. Not only will you learn about the blocks getting in your way, but you'll get tips and tricks to shift your thinking to transform any experience into a positive one!


When you love the unloveable, you experience:
  • Greater life satisfaction
  • Better relationships
  • Consistent sense of peace
  • Increased enjoyment
  • Improved mental, emotional, and physical well-being

My Story

I have done many things, and when I list them out, it makes me sound like some kind of superhero. It sounds intimidating to read my "accomplishments:"

  • 17+ books published
  • 2 music albums written and recorded
  • BA in Peace and Conflict Studies
  • MA in Global and International Studies
  • Creator of the Compassion Letter
  • Host of the Intentional Writer Interview series and group
  • Creator of The Heart Unboxed Course
  • Lived in India
  • Lived in Hungary
  • Got married twice to the same man (that's a story for another time...)
  • Taught art to children and adults
  • Had solo shows of my artwork
  • Keynoted at conferences

I won't go on because frankly, these things are not important.

The thing that you need to know is that despite being an accomplished person, for most of my life I thought I was a failure.

I had crippling self-doubt. I struggled with the successes of others. I held onto grudges, past humiliations, guilt, and shame like my life depended on it. I was critical of myself and others and it was making me miserable.

I was both unloveable and unloving.

The worst part is, I didn't recognize it. It took me 31 years to figure it out.

It wasn't until I lost everything in 2013 that I was forced to confront my truth. Over the course of the next few years, I studied. I read every book I could. I read articles, blogs, took classes, talked with friends, journaled, published, and meditated.

At the end of this intense exploration, I was a completely different person. I felt happy every day. I felt love for myself and others. My whole life transformed and continues to grow more wonderful with each new day.

I experience joy, peace, and love every day of my life.

Some time in the middle of that process, I was driven to share my lessons with others so anyone could feel this way. My work, like my life, shifted.

This is why I created the Heart Unboxed: How to Love the Unloveable.

It is my sincerest wish that you benefit from my lessons.

You don't have to struggle. You don't have to feel guilty, ashamed, angry, afraid, or sad. You can experience love, peace, joy, and wellness now!


A lot of people think they aren't good enough.

It's just not true, but they tell themselves this over and over through words and actions.

If you're reading this, you might be one of them.

Maybe you don't feel good enough to ask someone out. Maybe you can't bring yourself to amplify your message – to share your work with the world. Or maybe you feel like an imposter and let someone with less experience and less education talk over you at parties and meetings.

But what if you could recognize your worthiness? What if you woke up knowing you deserved good things in your life?

Imagine waking up everyday not only recognizing your worthiness, but living it by asking the person out, sharing your message, and asserting your expertise. Imagine you went through your day confident and self-assured in your inherent worth.

You can have this.

Let me show you the way in The Heart Unboxed: How to Love the Unloveable.

In this course I will help you uncover and unpack your worthiness story. Then you'll transform it through removing your negative self-talk and replacing it with thoughts and strategies that will demonstrate your amazing worth! You'll create habits that rewrite and maintain a story of worthiness in your life which will:

  • Improve your relationships in all areas of life (including with yourself!)
  • Improve your mood
  • Increase your enjoyment of life
  • AND Increase your mental, emotional, and physical wellness!

When I worked with Shawna, she had this to say:

"Alexis Donkin is a beautifully compassionate, heart-forward person. I deeply appreciate the consideration she puts into every word, the time and energy she spends on friendship and authenticity, and her very real presence.

The day after we spoke and I began my gratitude practice, I woke up to an acceptance letter for two of my poems in a print journal. Later I was contacted to write an article for a local print publication. I was reminded of how long I have tried to get back in print and how putting positivity into practice spins the wheel.

One session with Alexis helped me move from emotional paralysis back into the embrace of my own loving heart.

If you are stuck, I recommend scheduling a session with Alexis. She is naturally intuitive and consciously engaged. In addition to her coaching, I recommend her e-course, The Heart Unboxed: Loving the Unlovable. It is absolutely worth the investment in yourself. Finally, you can find more about Alexis, her memoir, motivational writing and services at her site, Give yourself a gift by working with this high impact wise woman!"

Shawna Ainslie, Creator of Survive Your Story & The Honey Quill

Maybe you're telling yourself...

“It's too expensive.”

The Heart Unboxed includes a lot of the content and recommendations I share with coaching clients for a fraction of the cost! This course includes all the tools, tips, and strategies you need AND it breaks down each step to shifting your heart and mind from a place of fear, doubt, guilt, and shame, to one of love, joy, and wellness.

“I don't have time”

The Heart Unboxed does require a small time commitment – less than 20 minutes every day to record your practices, and maybe an hour once a week to watch a video lecture and complete the workbook exercises. That's not very much, but for the change it will help create in your life, isn't that small amount of time worth it? When this class helps you wake up every morning full of joy and love, isn't it worth it?

If you want to experience love, joy, and total wellness on a regular basis, you will make time to get it. We spend time and resources on the things that matter the most to us. The question is, do you want to remove self-doubt? Do you want to let go of grudges? Jealousy? Feeling not good enough? If the answer is yes, then you're ready for this class.

“I can figure this out on my own.”

Maybe. I struggled for a long time to get to a place where I loved myself and others, where I was able to let go of old hurts, and respond to everything coming my way with active love. I was unloveable for a long time – to myself and others. It was only through cobbling together pieces of possibly hundreds of teachers, classes, books, and websites along with consistent self-reflection that I was finally able to reach the place where I am today.

I didn't know what was truly possible because it hadn't been outlined for me. I didn't know what I could experience because no one made it clear to me. That is why I created this class – so you don't have struggle like I did!


Here's the catch...

if you're not ready to confront your past or reflect on your beliefs and values, this is not the class for you. If the idea of changing your patterns of behavior and confronting difficult experiences or feelings is too uncomfortable, do not buy this class. You're not ready for it.

If you want a quick fix to all your life's problems – this is not for you.

There is no quick fix to changing your life. It takes disciplined commitment. This class pushes you to think about things in a new way and that can be hard for some people. It will force you to bring up parts of your experience that might be unpleasant. It will require you to spend time on yourself every day by creating loving habits that transform your heart and mind, impacting every aspect of your life. If that makes you hyperventilate, then do not enroll.

However, if that thought fills you with that bubbly excitement - then this class is exactly for you!

What people are saying:

"I'm so excited to work with you because you've been there - you know!"

Isaac Scranton

"I don't know how you knew - but you said exactly the thing I needed to hear the most right now!”

Maureen O'Leary

“I have been a fan of Alexis Donkin’s work with global compassion for the last year. I started reading her memoir, Thrive: How I Became a Superhero, and knew immediately she was tribe...Recently, Alexis launched an e-course called The Heart Unboxed: How to Love the Unlovable. The title caught my attention. I signed up to see what it is all about... This is a course you want to take!”

Shawna Ainslie


What The Heart Unboxed Course includes:

  • 5 Modules with a total of 8 video lectures including
    • Introducing unboxing
    • Recognizing the worth of self and others
    • Forgiving self and others
    • Accepting self and others
    • Maintaining an unboxed heart
  • A Getting Started Guide to set you up for success!
  • A 30 Day Daily Practice Tracker to hold yourself accountable
  • The Heart Unboxed Course Workbook: 50 pages of
    • questions
    • brainstorm prompts
    • assessments
    • daily practices
    • and exercises to help you apply course concepts immediately!
  • Access to the private Heart Unboxed Facebook Group which
    • gives you a community of similar hearts
    • supportive accountability and encouragement
    • plus a space to have your questions answered by students and me!
  • AND you'll get 4 bonus guided meditations and exercises to help you transform your life quickly and easily!

Frequently Asked Questions

When does the course start and finish?
The course starts August 1 and never ends! It is a completely self-paced online course - you decide when you start and when you finish.
How long do I have access to the course?
How does lifetime access sound? After enrolling, you have unlimited access to this course for as long as you like - across any and all devices you own.
What if I am unhappy with the course?
I would never want you to be unhappy! If you are unsatisfied with your purchase, contact us in the first 30 days and I will give you a full refund.
How is The Heart Unboxed different from other self-love courses?
While self-love and self-compassion are an essential part of this course, The Heart Unboxed helps you connect concepts of self-love to expressing love to others. These two things are connected and when you learn how they are connected, every aspect of your life is transformed!

Dear One,

I developed The Heart Unboxed: How to Love the Unloveable course because I saw a deep need of readers, friends, and colleagues to have more compassion and empathy in their lives, for themselves as well as others.

When we live with our hearts out of the box, our lives are completely changed. I saw that in my personal life as I wrote my memoir THRIVE: HOW I BECAME A SUPERHERO as well as the associated journal guide, TRANSFORM TO THRIVE: 32 DAYS FROM VICTIM TO SUPERHERO. This course builds on many of the lessons and practices outlined in those books, as well as guiding you through many of the practices and lessons I've shared in The Compassion Letter and my blog over the course of 2016.

This course is a way to give anyone the tools they need to successfully apply the concepts of compassion and empathy to your life - for both yourself and others. There's no reason for you to continue to live with guilt, shame, hate, or judgment. You can let those things go starting today.

Let me help you unbox your heart.


Get started now!