The Heart Unboxed

My Story

I have done many things, and when I list them out, it makes me sound like some kind of superhero. It sounds intimidating to read my "accomplishments:"

• 17+ books published
• 2 music albums written and recorded
• BA in Peace and Conflict Studies
• MA in Global and International Studies
• Creator of the Compassion Letter
• Host of the Intentional Writer Interview series and group
• Creator of The Heart Unboxed Course
• Lived in India
• Lived in Hungary
• Got married twice to the same man (that's a story for another time...)
• Taught art to children and adults
• Had solo shows of my artwork
• Keynoted at conferences

I won't go on because frankly, these things are not important.

The thing that you need to know is that despite being an accomplished person, for most of my life I thought I was a failure.

I had crippling self-doubt. I struggled with the successes of others. I held onto grudges, past humiliations, guilt, and shame like my life depended on it. I was critical of myself and others and it was making me miserable.

I was both unloveable and unloving.

The worst part is, I didn't recognize it. It took me 31 years to figure it out.

It wasn't until I lost everything in 2013 that I was forced to confront my truth. Over the course of the next few years, I studied. I read every book I could. I read articles, blogs, took classes, talked with friends, journaled, published, and meditated.

At the end of this intense exploration, I was a completely different person. I felt happy every day. I felt love for myself and others. My whole life transformed and continues to grow more wonderful with each new day.

I experience joy, peace, and love every day of my life.

Some time in the middle of that process, I was driven to share my lessons with others so anyone could feel this way. My work, like my life, shifted.

This is why I created the Heart Unboxed: How to Love the Unloveable.

It is my sincerest wish that you benefit from my lessons.

You don't have to struggle. You don't have to feel guilty, ashamed, angry, afraid, or sad. You can experience love, peace, joy, and wellness now!

When I worked with Shawna, she had this to say:

"Alexis Donkin is a beautifully compassionate, heart-forward person. I deeply appreciate the consideration she puts into every word, the time and energy she spends on friendship and authenticity, and her very real presence.

The day after we spoke and I began my gratitude practice, I woke up to an acceptance letter for two of my poems in a print journal. Later I was contacted to write an article for a local print publication. I was reminded of how long I have tried to get back in print and how putting positivity into practice spins the wheel.

One session with Alexis helped me move from emotional paralysis back into the embrace of my own loving heart.

If you are stuck, I recommend scheduling a session with Alexis. She is naturally intuitive and consciously engaged. In addition to her coaching, I recommend her e-course, The Heart Unboxed: Loving the Unlovable. It is absolutely worth the investment in yourself. Finally, you can find more about Alexis, her memoir, motivational writing and services at her site, alexisdonkin.com. Give yourself a gift by working with this high impact wise woman!"

Shawna Ainslie, Creator of Survive Your Story & The Honey Quill

Maybe you're telling yourself...

“It's too expensive.”

The Heart Unboxed includes a lot of the content and recommendations I share with coaching clients for a fraction of the cost! This course includes all the tools, tips, and strategies you need AND it breaks down each step to shifting your heart and mind from a place of fear, doubt, guilt, and shame, to one of love, joy, and wellness.

“I don't have time”

The Heart Unboxed does require a small time commitment – less than 20 minutes every day to record your practices, and maybe an hour once a week to watch a video lecture and complete the workbook exercises. That's not very much, but for the change it will help create in your life, isn't that small amount of time worth it? When this class helps you wake up every morning full of joy and love, isn't it worth it?

If you want to experience love, joy, and total wellness on a regular basis, you will make time to get it. We spend time and resources on the things that matter the most to us. The question is, do you want to remove self-doubt? Do you want to let go of grudges? Jealousy? Feeling not good enough? If the answer is yes, then you're ready for this class.

“I can figure this out on my own.”

Maybe. I struggled for a long time to get to a place where I loved myself and others, where I was able to let go of old hurts, and respond to everything coming my way with active love. I was unloveable for a long time – to myself and others. It was only through cobbling together pieces of possibly hundreds of teachers, classes, books, and websites along with consistent self-reflection that I was finally able to reach the place where I am today.

I didn't know what was truly possible because it hadn't been outlined for me. I didn't know what I could experience because no one made it clear to me. That is why I created this class – so you don't have struggle like I did!

What people are saying:

"I'm so excited to work with you because you've been there - you know!"

Isaac Scranton

"I don't know how you knew - but you said exactly the thing I needed to hear the most right now!”

Maureen O'Leary

“I have been a fan of Alexis Donkin’s work with global compassion for the last year. I started reading her memoir, Thrive: How I Became a Superhero, and knew immediately she was tribe...Recently, Alexis launched an e-course called The Heart Unboxed: How to Love the Unlovable. The title caught my attention. I signed up to see what it is all about... This is a course you want to take!”

Shawna Ainslie